FIVE STAGES OF GRIEF
(adapted from Elizabeth Kubler-Ross)
5 STAGES Death and Dying Healing a Memory
|DENIAL||I avoid facing the likelihood of my death.
I cannot face my mortality
I feel and act as though I am invincible.
|I don’t admit I either am or ever was hurt.
I don’t face the reality of my unrealized dreams and illusions.
I see things like I want to see them, and not as they are.
|ANGER||I blame others for letting death hurt and destroy me.
I am filled with resentment and can’t forgive.
|I blame others for hurting and destroying me.
Others are responsible for my pain. Anger and ‘shoulds’ are intrusive thoughts.
|BARGAINING||I set up conditions to be fulfilled before I’m ready to die.
If I do, then I can avoid reality and make things as I want to be.
|I set up conditions to be fulfilled before I’m ready to forgive myself and others.
If I act in a certain way, perhaps I can get others to change their minds and behaviors.
|DEPRESSION||I blame myself for letting death take over.
I failed in my life-I didn’t accomplish what I hoped.
I have regrets about how my life path progressed.
|I blame myself for letting hurt destroy me.
I failed and am powerless, helpless, despondent.
Hopelessness, regret, despondency are intrusive thoughts.
|ACCEPTANCE||I’m ready to die.
I’ve made peace with others and myself.
I have come to terms with my mortality.
|I look forward to growth from hurt and change.
I can accept and forgive myself and others.
I can let go of impossible dreams, illusions, & ‘shoulds’.
I’m a transpersonal therapist and coach who provides counseling for anxiety, depression, symptoms of trauma, ADHD, career decision making, or any struggle in life. If you feel stuck through counseling, I can help you make the changes you desire while nourishing your mind, body, and soul. I’ll help you achieve a greater sense of purpose and spiritual fulfillment. I offer online therapy and I’m licensed in Arizona and Washington.